Technique 1.104 Trust

Introduction

There are 7 elements of trust (BRAVING)

i) Boundaries: respect another person's boundaries; check what is okay and not okay; willing to say no

ii) Reliability: deliver on your promises; understand your competencies and limitations; deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities

iii) Accountability: own your own mistakes, apologise and fix

iv) Vault: keeping confidences; don't share information or experiences that are not yours to share, ie respect confidentiality

v) Integrity: choosing what is right rather than what is fun, fast, convenient, easy, etc; practise your values; choose courage over comfort

vi) Non-judgemental: in conversations and activities don't get judgemental; ask for help with your judgement

vii) Generosity: assume the most generous interpretation possible to intentions, words and actions of others

NB

Don't forget self-trust

"...is normally the first casualty of failure or mistakes. We stop trusting ourselves when we hurt others, get hurt, feel shame, question our worth..."
Renée Brown, 2021

Using self-trust as an example

"...B - Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what's okay and what's not okay?
     R - Was I reliable? Did I do what I said I was going to do?
     A - Did I hold myself accountable?
     V - Did I respect the vaults and share appropriately?
     I - Did I act from integrity?
     N - Did I ask what I needed? Was I nonjudgmental about needing help?   
     G - Was I generous towards myself?
(source: Renée Brown, 2021)