Assumptions Undermining Relationships

It is important to understand the assumptions people make about one another, ie

"...- when someone's behaviour impacts on us in any way, we try to understand. We do this by forming assumptions about their intentions that we think have motivated the behaviour. We may do this even if the person concerned has no intention of causing anything adverse for us.

    - having formed our assumptions, we often treat them as factual. We ignore the likelihood that they were actually guesses.

    - we almost never voice the assumption to the person. Being unaware of it, they showed no reason to change their behaviour. They have no way of challenging our assumption by voicing their actual motivation..."

Bob Dick, 2021b

There seems to be a taboo to expressing and checking the accuracy of your assumptions about other people's motives.


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