x) Getting Balance Right In Your Life (Balanced Lifestyle)

Introduction

When looking at your lifestyle, keep in mind these questions:

What is achievement without pleasure, meaning and purpose?

Or what is achievement without fulfilment?

Too many focus on money and status at the expense of connection, meaning, sense of belonging and purpose.

Need to redefine the sense of purpose in life by focusing on prioritising relationships (family, relatives and friends)

"...working long hours chasing the Western idea of success defined by money, power and kudos doesn't help..."

Andrew May 2019

Need to have the right approach to your physical and mental health plus your personal and social well-being. Included in this are issues like diet (including consumption of alcohol, etc), quality and quantity of sleep, hobbies, regular exercise, meditation, etc which all need to be monitored regularly.

Need to understand your own mindsets and cognitive biases. For example, redefining failure as an opportunity for growth and learning.

"...need to pause and reflect; the need to have boundaries in place and give myself permission to recharge with the knowledge that I'd perform better at work and my life. I discovered I need to connect with those I love and the need to support myself mentally and physically to do what I was asking my body and brain......even though the spark was lost, it is possible to get it back and for it to burn more brightly than before..."

Andrew May 2019

Getting the balance right in your life is about prioritising.

Remember: the "wheel of success" involves getting the correct balance between work, family, ethics/values, health, self-development, social activities, etc. If the wheel of success isn't balanced, it will surely wobble badly, then fall off!!!!

. Life balance can be explained by the following components of self, family, job and community, eg

Self

Job

Family

Community

Of the 4 components, self is the most important and needs the most focus. To be successful, you need to have a good understanding of self and continue to develop it (including health). Then, and only then, can you effectively handle the other components. At different times in your life, one component will be more dominant than others, eg starting a new job could result in an imbalance due to a significant focus on the job component.

NB With increasing use computers and TV, we have become more sedentary (Sam McKeith, 2010). This has increased the risk of mortality regardless of other risks factors like smoking, poor diet, high blood pressure and obesity.

A good example of lack of a life balance are the "leave hoarders or stockpilers". In Australia they are typically male, over 35, a high-income earner, long-serving employee and manage staff. There are 5 types of leave stockpilers (Rachel Nickless, 2010):

i) saver (planning and saving for a big trip)

ii) martyr (believes that the world will fall apart if they are not at work too manage things)

iii) workaholic (are addicted to their jobs)

iv) worrier (thinks stockpiled leave is an insurance policy if they lose their job)

v) victim (feel a lack of management support for them taking leave)

Taking leave is important for rest and recreation, ie "recharging our batteries"

Once self is handled, then, and only then, can you effectively handle the other components. At different times in your life, one component will be more dominant than others, eg starting a new job could result in an imbalance due to a significant focus on the job component.

Balance suggests that you have a wide variety of interests and that your personal and professional goals are aligned. If the balance is right

"...this creates a reservoir of continual emotional energy - an endearing high-performance is not so much about time management as it is about the skilful management of emotional energy. Every one of your thoughts, emotions and behaviours has an impact on your level of emotional capital - your energy. And physical and emotional capital are inextricably connected. You maximize your emotional capital by making sure that all the important areas of your life get the attention they deserve..."

Martyn Newman, 2007

 

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